Skip to main content

Sometimes I feel like a good wife. Sometimes I feel like a terrible wife.

  "House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers,
But a prudent wife is from the LORD.” -Proverbs 19:14


Sometimes I feel like a pretty good wife; sometimes I feel like a pretty terrible wife. But the objective of marriage is not simply to be comfortable with my feelings- it is to glorify God. So even if I’m behind on ALL the housework and ALL the things, (like I have been this week…it’s been horrendous) as long as I am responsibly maintaining my relationship with God and my husband, it’s a successful week as a wife.
  I honor God by honoring my husband, and there are lots of ways to honor my husband even when the apartment is in utter shambles- which it definitely is.
  Taking an interest in Arthur’s work, encouraging him in his ministry, expressing my thankfulness and pride for his dependence on the Holy Spirit, trusting him with my emotions (even the ugly, scary ones!)- all of these things honor Arthur and the important role God has given him in my life. All of these things are worthwhile, and yes, more important than doing the dishes. Which is good news for me, because up until yesterday, every surface in our kitchen was stacked with dirty dishes. (Seriously, it looked a scene from a household-cleaning-based horror film.) 
  I am so thankful and so blessed that my husband reminds me to have a proper view of my role as a wife, as I so often get caught up and discouraged by the tasks I have failed to complete. Arthur’s expectation that I love God, love him, and love our baby- in that order- seems too easy, and I sometimes think that it is not enough, and that I am not proving myself as a wife or as a woman…and yet that desire to “prove” myself is selfishly motivated.
    Instead, Lord, please help me to keep my focus always on YOU, and what YOU have accomplished in and through this marriage!
  It is, after all, all for His glory anyways.

Labels

Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

I love you so much, and I am completely devoted to you, and I know that you’re the man God had for me to marry- BUT, even if none of that was true, there are still hundreds of good reasons for me to marry you. And this fudge is two of them. My eternal thankfulness when Arthur made me fudge
Post a Comment
Read more

Pause Before You Post: Representing yourself responsibly and honestly online

  When I was about eleven years old I went to summer camp for the first time. Before my sister and I left, my mother talked to us about something. She explained that we needed to mindful of our behavior at camp, not only because it is important to be kind and respectful, but also because we would be a representation of both our family and Christ to the people around us. That stuck with me.   Now, with so many of us daily browsing and posting to social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, and blogs such as this, our representation is no longer limited to the people we are around in person- it is far-reaching, even global at times. It is certainly a far more widespread representation of yourself to post on the internet than it is to say something in person; on the internet, the dozens or hundreds of people you are connected with may see it. That is an enormous audience.   I feel very strongly that we need to be mindful of that audience, of that re...
Post a Comment
Read more
Sometimes I look at other girls and wonder how they get such perfect curls in their hair. Then I remember that they get up early and curl it. I just get up late, squint at the mirror, and say “Please be curly, please be curly!” Well, THERE’S your problem.
Post a Comment
Read more